Many thanks to all voting for this project but for me it is not possible to fullfill it by myself because of time and I do not have the best skills to do a full integration into TYPO3 12 and 13 or bring it next or into the TYPO3 core.
If somebody wants to do the work and take over the extension, please let me know.
I tried it, but I cannot fulfill the requirements; there are open issues and an unfinished version for TYPO3 12.
I should have sought support for this project earlier.
Github-Repo: https://github.com/Kephson/paste_reference
Open issues: https://github.com/Kephson/paste_reference/issues
TYPO3 11.5 branch: https://packagist.org/packages/ehaerer/paste-reference#dev-main
TYPO3 12.4 branch: https://packagist.org/packages/ehaerer/paste-reference#dev-TYPO3_12
TYPO3 12.4 development branch: https://packagist.org/packages/ehaerer/paste-reference#dev-development
Presentation with needed changes and old timelines:
https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1L9TtXyNJHbhlYEh0spiOtNvyncPAbsfvPyZdvCs7ZVU/edit?usp=sharing
Feel free to contact me.